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It’s perfectly common for couples – even people who are in long-term sexual and romantic relationships – to experiences periods of time when their passion and excitement decreases a bit.  There is no such thing as a relationship without occasional sexual problems, so don’t get too upset right away if you feel like you and the person you love or are interested in seem a bit “off” now and then.  It happens to everyone!  But, if this is a relationship you wish to maintain and strengthen, you do need to address  problems that persist.  The first step in moving forward in a positive way is to figure out what it is that isn’t going well – you may be surprised how many people know something is wrong but refuse to identify it.  Once you’ve figured this out and admitted it to yourself and to your partner, you can go about fixing it.  Here are a few examples that are actually very common.

• Trust Issues – Particularly in relationships with younger couples or in newer relationships, trust is almost an issue more often than not!  After all, when you truly start to care about someone, it is natural to cling to the idea that he or she cares just as much about you.  The idea of that person caring about someone else as well, or having sexual relations with someone else, is very upsetting, and can naturally lead to trust issues, which can in turn make it harder to enjoy sex with your partner.  There is unfortunately no clean-cut “solution” to this problem, but most couples find that the best way to address it is to learn how to give each other space.  People are tempted to stray from relationships when they feel trapped or mistrusted, so your trust may actually lead to a greater chance of fidelity, openness, and commitment.  Once you have established these things, you can focus solely on each other in bed!

• Specific Sexual Issues – Very common even in established long-term relationships, sexual issues can have a huge strain on people. Maybe you’ve just lost that spark in bed, or maybe you’re suddenly seeking new kinds of pleasure and you don’t even know why.  It’s ok!  These are perfectly normal developments and feelings, and can be addressed in a number of ways.  Maybe you just need to talk to your partner about trying new things, or maybe you should even go as far as visiting adameve.com to look for toys or accessories that may help your bedroom life to be a bit more engaging.  Whatever the case, a proactive approach can solve this sort of problem more often than not.

These are just a few examples of popular relationship issues and how to address them in a way that revitalizes your sex life in a very real way.  The key, overall, is to be open with your partner and explain your needs and desires, even if they change or they are difficult to explain.  No relationship works without good communication, and this principle extends to the bedroom in all circumstances.

We often hear these questions, “Should my partner and I get a massage table?” and “Do they help, or can I just use my bed?”  The bottom line is that massages on a table are much better, and more relaxing for the giver and receiver.

WHY GET A TABLE?

You don’t have to worry about getting your bed dirty and cleaning up afterwards is easy.  Also, being able to stand and move around a table allows you to apply the right amount of pressure without putting strain on yourself, especially your upper shoulders and neck.  This liberates both the giver and recipient to fully relax and get creative.  The bottom line here is that you can do things with a massage table that you can never accomplish on a bed.

This investment also gives you a great place for you and your partner to experience intimacy in addition to the bedroom.  Variety is always a welcome thing, and practicing massage will always lead to new experiences.

WHAT TABLE SHOULD I GET?

We could write a lot here, but this YouTube video does the job:

We have the Master Massage Coronado, which is ranked as the #2 table on this video.  However, several friends have purchased the BestMassage table that is ranked #1.  The BestMassage table is around $100 and can usually be found with free shipping.  Everyone we know with this table has given it great reviews.

WHERE DO I BUY IT?

This is the easiest question to answer.  Just snag one on Amazon or Ebay.  Shipping is often included with massage tables and it comes right to your house!

That’s all the advice we have for now.  We will be blogging more frequently, so stay tuned.

“[A] healing crisis is a process in which the body undergoes an intense period of cleansing and rebuilding.  It is called a ‘healing’ crisis because the body is healing itself and becoming stronger.  It is referred to as a ‘crisis’ because the symptoms can be dramatic and rather unpleasant during this time.  Because the healing crisis is accompanied by unpleasant symptoms it is often mistaken as a sickness.  In reality, it is just the opposite.  It is a process in which the body is overcoming ill health and becoming healthier and stronger.”

Healing crises may occur in many forms.  Most commonly they are mentioned in relation to physical health and nutrition.  However, they can also occur emotionally, mentally, and spiritually in individuals.  More relevant to our goals at TRUST, we want to point out that a healing crisis can also occur in relationships.

If you and your partner are working on building and strengthening your relationship, a healing crisis may occur.  This is because when there is a true connection between two people anything that affects one individual will undoubtedly affect the other.  In relationships, it is hard to imagine that a purely individual healing crisis can occur.  Relationships tend to seek equilibrium, and if one person is off balance, the other is probably acting as a counterweight.

When working through a healing crisis, communication remains important.  At the same time, so does space.  Each person is going through their own emotional roller coaster.  Balance will not be easy to find at that time.

So, how do you know that your relationship is experiencing a healing crisis?  Here are some ways:

1. One or both of you recently had a significant life experience or event. This experience could be the result of just about anything.  The important thing is the significance of the event.  The event could have been positive or negative, or a mixture of the two.

2.  A change is occurring in your life. This could be a career change, a geographical move, a lifestyle change, or something completely different.  Perhaps one person is giving up smoking, or is trying to improve in some other area.  Depending on how deep-rooted the behavior being changed will determine the intensity of the healing crisis.

3.  You have goals that you want to achieve. Many couples set goals together, and all couples should set goals at some point in a committed relationship.  For some the goal might be financial stability, others might simply want to raise a family, and some might be trying to deepen the intimacy in their relationship.  Whatever the goal, be prepared to identify and experience a healing crisis.  Being goal-oriented sometimes means going through a pain period.  This is equally true for relationships.

Remember, a healing crisis is healthy, even though it might hurt, bring about fear and anxiety, or make things difficult for a while.  Relationships will always be tested, so find ways to work together and learn from experiences and changes.  Finally, do set goals with your partner, and persevere with one another to achieve those goals!

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You are an individual.  You live, breathe, eat, and sleep.  You experience a wide range of emotions, your mind conjures up tons of questions, and each day you face numerous decisions that affect your future.  Your choices affect your health, wealth, and happiness.  Your choices make you stronger or weaker over time.

Your relationship with your partner requires care and maintenance.  You are connected to each other emotionally, physically, materially, and spiritually.  In order to have a relationship that grows and flourishes, you must treat it with the care required by two individuals seeking to share life together.

This highlights the major problem with most personal lubricants available on the market.  Most lubricants treat sex as an act between two machines.  Rub this here, put this there, and go to it.  Worst of all, once you place a lubricant somewhere, you are probably not going to want your mouth there.  A mouth full of petrochemical garbage just doesn’t appeal to most people.  You get the picture – most lubricants limit variety and creativity.

TRUST was made to overcome the obstacles couples face in the bedroom.  TRUST allows you to start with a massage, let go of stress, quiet the noise in your head, and communicate on a physical level with your partner.  From there, anything goes, and you can transition seamlessly back and forth from different activities.  Since TRUST is kosher, vegan, and has a neutral taste, you are free to explore your partner in every way imaginable.

If your partner is a woman, TRUST serves as a supplement to any natural lubrication provided by the body, instead of replacing it.  It is also pH neutral and contains no additives or essential oils, so it won’t negatively impact those with sensitivities.

Remember, you are not a machine.  Machines need lubricants.  Relationships need TRUST.  Choosing TRUST will make your body and your relationship healthier and stronger over time!

A BRIEF OVERVIEW OF FEMALE ANATOMY

The Anterior Fornix is an important area of female anatomy that you probably have not heard of until now.  The few sex educators that teach the importance of this area call it by other names: the Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (or AFE Zone), the A-Spot, the T-Zone, or the Deep Spot.  To see where it is located, please take a few moments to review the diagram below.

As shown above, the Anterior Fornix is located directly in front of where the cervix protrudes into the vagina.  Also note that the Posterior Fornix is located immediately behind the cervix.  Note that both fornices are located further inside the vagina than the G-spot.  Look at the following diagram showing the G-spot.  Although they are not labeled, pay attention to the location of the fornices.

Note that the bladder is directly in front of the G-spot and is in close proximity to the Anterior Fornix.  As a result, direct stimulation of these areas will put pressure against the bladder.  If a woman does not have an empty bladder, she may feel some discomfort if you try to stimulate these areas.  Be mindful of this.

STIMULATING THE ANTERIOR FORNIX

Stimulation of the Anterior Fornix provides indirect stimulation of the G-spot.  Just like some women do not like direct clitoral stimulation immediately, the same goes for the G-spot.  This is why many couples who rush into G-spot exploration struggle to enjoy it.  You have to take it slow, and let arousal happen naturally.  For women who do not like direct stimulation of the G-spot at all, you may find that they really enjoy stimulation of the Anterior Fornix area.

Using one to two fingers, massage from the beginning of the Anterior Fornix down towards the G-spot.  Doing this will indirectly stimulate the G-spot, which will awaken that area for more direct stimulation later.  If you want, you can use the same “come here” motion that is often suggested for the G-spot. When you curl your fingers, stop before getting to the G-spot as you are trying to indirectly stimulate this area.  Start slow and build up to stronger stimulation.  Try to practice this together for 15 to 20 minutes with the only goal being relaxation and pleasure.  Remember, without proper lubrication, you will be unable to stimulate this area for a significant length of time without causing pain or discomfort.

Make sure you pay attention to what is happening with her body.  You should notice multiple changes.  Internally, her G-spot will swell, her anterior wall will start to balloon, and her cervix will soften and lengthen.  Externally, her labia and vulva will swell (and may change color), her clitoris will engorge and may protrude from the clitoral hood, her skin may become flushed, and her breathing will likely change. With practice, you will understand what these changes mean in regard to her state of arousal.

BENEFITS OF INTERNAL ANTERIOR FORNIX MASSAGE

There are several benefits of internal massage in this fashion.  You are stimulating a deeper spot inside of the female anatomy that is often neglected.  Massaging this area helps to exercise the tissue and muscles in a way that brings more blood flow to the genitals.  More blood flow and increased circulation will equal greater arousal.  This also awakens and prepares the G-spot for direct stimulation.  From there, you can indirectly stimulate the clitoris, and then directly stimulate the clitoris while continuing to switch between the Anterior Fornix and G-spot.

Also, while many women kegel, many forget the importance of relaxing the muscles inside their bodies.  As a result, they might hold tension and stress in those areas, and this prevents proper blood circulation.  Women who do not kegel may have muscles that have weakened, which also can result in poor circulation.  Properly massaging the Anterior Fornix down towards the G-spot will allow for relaxation, better blood flow to the genitals, and will stimulate and help strengthen a woman’s internal muscles in a different way.  This builds sexual health and wellness while partners begin sharing more powerful sexual experiences.

USING AND CHOOSING LUBRICATION

A common mistake made when attempting internal stimulation is not using lubrication.  While women tend to understand the necessity of lubrication, the male ego seems a bit fragile, and men wrongly assume they are somehow less competent if lubrication is needed.  This could not be further from the truth.  In fact, if you are massaging your partner externally or internally and not using proper lubrication, the quality of what you can achieve before causing pain and discomfort is low.

When choosing proper lubrication, consider what you are trying to accomplish.  TRUST is kosher, vegan, and edible, making it suitable for a wide variety of intimate activity.  TRUST won’t negatively impact a woman’s pH, complements her natural lubrication, and can be absorbed into the skin, which results in less cleanup.  It was created specifically for full body and internal massage.

The standard warnings found in our FAQs still apply.  Couples who are fluid bonded or wear polyurethane condoms can use TRUST safely, but those who wear latex should consider a lubricant such as Astroglide for internal massage.  The downside of other lubricants are that they probably contain petrochemicals or glycerin.  Also, many other lubricants act as a substitute for a woman’s natural lubrication instead of complementing it.  This greatly alters the experience for both individuals, making the sensations more artificial.

A FEW WARNINGS

1. Trim your fingernails, and wash your hands.  One of the easiest ways to ruin the experience is to have long or unclean nails.
2. Start with a massage, and consider massaging the entire body before attempting any form of internal massage.  Get to know your partner’s body during the massage.  Remember, this builds oxytocins and other body chemicals, resulting in a more powerful shared experience.
3. Massage slowly, be gentle, and communicate during the experience.  If pain or discomfort arises, stop what you are doing.
4. Unless you really know your partner’s body, do not try and stimulate her cervix.  While some women love to have this area stimulated, it is highly sensitive.  Massaging this area can create pain, discomfort, or more serious problems.

RESOURCES FOR FURTHER STUDY

It is important that couples study sexual education materials together when possible.  Learning in this fashion encourages discussion between partners, which is vital to building a strong, physical connection.  The feedback shared also builds intimacy.

Margot Anand’s books are amazing resources.  Specifically, we recommend “The Art of Sexual Ecstasy,” “The Art of Sexual Magic,” and “Sexual Ecstasy: The Art of Orgasm.” Her books contain incredible information on human sexuality.

Mantak Chia is another brilliant resource.  We previously reviewed “The Multi-Orgasmic Couple,” which Mantak Chia and his wife, Maneewan, wrote along with Doug and Rachel Abrams.  Another great book by Chia is “Healing Love Through The Tao: Cultivating Female Sexual Energy.”

For full body massage and internal massage for women, we have yet to find anything as comprehensive and effective as the White Tiger Tantra series.  Although the White Tiger Tantra DVD collection is more expensive than many massage videos, it covers everything you need to know, and has tons of information for couples to practice and incorporate into their lives.

The bottom line is that relationships are not that hard, but they require time and patience.  In addition, most people aren’t asking the right questions, or looking in the right places for the answers.  Society quickly breaks most people down, leaving them bitter, jaded, alone, or willing to settle for a superficial relationship or marriage.  People need to take the time to focus on honesty, integrity, communication, and being present with their partner.

If you want to find someone who exceeds your expectations, ask these questions: “What kind of person are you currently attracting?” and “What kind of person do you want to attract?”  Be specific and detailed in your answers, and make sure they include the right reasons for seeking companionship, such as shared long term goals, similar values, and someone that you can communicate with openly and honestly.

Once you have answered those questions, keep the following objectives in mind:

DO SOMETHING THAT WILL IMPROVE YOUR SENSE OF SELF-WORTH AND WELL-BEING.

In other words, focus on being your best self.  Take care of yourself, pursue interests other than finding a relationship, and, most importantly, get a life.  You don’t have to go out and become an Olympian or Nobel Prize Winner, but you should become more in touch with who you are, what you desire, and what you really enjoy in life.

GET OUT AND MEET OTHER PEOPLE.

A huge problem for many people in finding a companion is that they do not take the initiative to meet others.  They play it safe, stay inside their comfort zones, and stick to those in their social circle.  The problem with this is that the world is a huge place.  People come in every shape, size, and personality imaginable.  Get off the couch and go interact with people without having a specific goal in mind.  This is a good exercise that will benefit multiple areas of your life.

GET TO KNOW THOSE WORTH KNOWING.

As previously noted, there are a wide variety of people in the world.  The sad reality is that there are tons of people who are terrible as friends, colleagues, girlfriends, boyfriends, relatives, and companions.  If you meet a person who tends to suck the life out of the room, move right along.  If they are horrible from the start, thank them for not wasting your time, and keep moving.  This allows you to focus on all the good people that do exist in this world.  As Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  Surround yourself with good, trustworthy, positive people.

CONTINUE DOING THINGS TO IMPROVE YOURSELF, AND REMAIN CONFIDENT IN YOUR PATH.

If you are doing things to better yourself, don’t stop.  Life is a long journey, so never stop improving.  Many individuals improve themselves, find a partner, quit improving themselves to focus on their new relationship, and both people in the relationship suffer.  The bottom line is that by not continuing to develop yourself, you become uninteresting, boring, and less attractive.  The person that fell for you no longer recognizes you.  Don’t make this common mistake.  Instead, keep pursuing life with passion, and keep building confidence as you go.  Again, surround yourself with those who support your goals.

DON’T SETTLE FOR SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU ARE LONELY.

No one likes to feel lonely.  Sometimes life kicks us hard and we feel as if no one in the world understands us.  Some people settle for a relationship to try and prevent this feeling.  If you settle, you are probably with the wrong person, and your feelings of loneliness will magnify as the result of poor communication.  To prevent this, find yourself through your life, and find others you can share life with.

LEARN WHAT YOU WANT, AND WHAT YOU DO NOT WANT.

For some of us, we have to experience a lot of what we don’t want before we realize what we really want.  Allow yourself to date and get to know people.  Get some experience in relationships.  If a relationship doesn’t work out, don’t take it personally, and don’t harbor bitterness and ill-will towards an ex.  Realize that life is all about feedback.  Prior relationships are full of lessons of what you want, and what you don’t want.  Learn from them, make peace with your past, and move forward with the knowledge you gain along the way.

LET YOUR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS DEVELOP NATURALLY.

The point of this last objective is to stress the importance of patience.  In all that you do, it is important to allow life to unfold properly.  Water takes time to boil, trees take time to grow, and quality relationships take time to develop.  As a society we have the illusion of being more connected thanks to the internet, cell phones, and text messaging.  We have gotten used to numerous forms of instant gratification, and the art of getting to know someone seems to be dying out.  However, the good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way.  Slow down, enjoy life, share that enjoyment with others, and in time you will find someone that complements your unique personality.

Remember, if a relationship feels like too much work, then it is probably not working. This isn’t to suggest that relationships will always be sunshine and smiles — they won’t.  But, if you don’t have a partner who is a good teammate, you don’t have a partner at all.  A partner who appreciates your good and bad qualities will stick around when times get tough, when the chips are down, and when you need him or her the most.  In a good relationship, dealing with the tough times is not work, but a labor of love.