This post is not the same recycled material you have probably read about the G-spot, the clitoris, and female orgasm. We will give a concise yet comprehensive overview of female anatomy, explain some techniques you have probably not encountered, provide a few warnings, and provide you with quality resources for further study.
A BRIEF OVERVIEW OF FEMALE ANATOMY
The Anterior Fornix is an important area of female anatomy that you probably have not heard of until now. The few sex educators that teach the importance of this area call it by other names: the Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (or AFE Zone), the A-Spot, the T-Zone, or the Deep Spot. To see where it is located, please take a few moments to review the diagram below.
As shown above, the Anterior Fornix is located directly in front of where the cervix protrudes into the vagina. Also note that the Posterior Fornix is located immediately behind the cervix. Note that both fornices are located further inside the vagina than the G-spot. Look at the following diagram showing the G-spot. Although they are not labeled, pay attention to the location of the fornices.
Note that the bladder is directly in front of the G-spot and is in close proximity to the Anterior Fornix. As a result, direct stimulation of these areas will put pressure against the bladder. If a woman does not have an empty bladder, she may feel some discomfort if you try to stimulate these areas. Be mindful of this.
STIMULATING THE ANTERIOR FORNIX
Stimulation of the Anterior Fornix provides indirect stimulation of the G-spot. Just like some women do not like direct clitoral stimulation immediately, the same goes for the G-spot. This is why many couples who rush into G-spot exploration struggle to enjoy it. You have to take it slow, and let arousal happen naturally. For women who do not like direct stimulation of the G-spot at all, you may find that they really enjoy stimulation of the Anterior Fornix area.
Using one to two fingers, massage from the beginning of the Anterior Fornix down towards the G-spot. Doing this will indirectly stimulate the G-spot, which will awaken that area for more direct stimulation later. If you want, you can use the same “come here” motion that is often suggested for the G-spot. When you curl your fingers, stop before getting to the G-spot as you are trying to indirectly stimulate this area. Start slow and build up to stronger stimulation. Try to practice this together for 15 to 20 minutes with the only goal being relaxation and pleasure. Remember, without proper lubrication, you will be unable to stimulate this area for a significant length of time without causing pain or discomfort.
Make sure you pay attention to what is happening with her body. You should notice multiple changes. Internally, her G-spot will swell, her anterior wall will start to balloon, and her cervix will soften and lengthen. Externally, her labia and vulva will swell (and may change color), her clitoris will engorge and may protrude from the clitoral hood, her skin may become flushed, and her breathing will likely change. With practice, you will understand what these changes mean in regard to her state of arousal.
BENEFITS OF INTERNAL ANTERIOR FORNIX MASSAGE
There are several benefits of internal massage in this fashion. You are stimulating a deeper spot inside of the female anatomy that is often neglected. Massaging this area helps to exercise the tissue and muscles in a way that brings more blood flow to the genitals. More blood flow and increased circulation will equal greater arousal. This also awakens and prepares the G-spot for direct stimulation. From there, you can indirectly stimulate the clitoris, and then directly stimulate the clitoris while continuing to switch between the Anterior Fornix and G-spot.
Also, while many women kegel, many forget the importance of relaxing the muscles inside their bodies. As a result, they might hold tension and stress in those areas, and this prevents proper blood circulation. Women who do not kegel may have muscles that have weakened, which also can result in poor circulation. Properly massaging the Anterior Fornix down towards the G-spot will allow for relaxation, better blood flow to the genitals, and will stimulate and help strengthen a woman’s internal muscles in a different way. This builds sexual health and wellness while partners begin sharing more powerful sexual experiences.
USING AND CHOOSING LUBRICATION
A common mistake made when attempting internal stimulation is not using lubrication. While women tend to understand the necessity of lubrication, the male ego seems a bit fragile, and men wrongly assume they are somehow less competent if lubrication is needed. This could not be further from the truth. In fact, if you are massaging your partner externally or internally and not using proper lubrication, the quality of what you can achieve before causing pain and discomfort is low.
When choosing proper lubrication, consider what you are trying to accomplish. TRUST is kosher, vegan, and edible, making it suitable for a wide variety of intimate activity. TRUST won’t negatively impact a woman’s pH, complements her natural lubrication, and can be absorbed into the skin, which results in less cleanup. It was created specifically for full body and internal massage.
The standard warnings found in our FAQs still apply. Couples who are fluid bonded or wear polyurethane condoms can use TRUST safely, but those who wear latex should consider a lubricant such as Astroglide for internal massage. The downside of other lubricants are that they probably contain petrochemicals or glycerin. Also, many other lubricants act as a substitute for a woman’s natural lubrication instead of complementing it. This greatly alters the experience for both individuals, making the sensations more artificial.
A FEW WARNINGS
- Trim your fingernails, and wash your hands. One of the easiest ways to ruin the experience is to have long or unclean nails.
- Start with a massage, and consider massaging the entire body before attempting any form of internal massage. Get to know your partner’s body during the massage. Remember, this builds oxytocins and other body chemicals, resulting in a more powerful shared experience.
- Massage slowly, be gentle, and communicate during the experience. If pain or discomfort arises, stop what you are doing.
- Unless you really know your partner’s body, do not try and stimulate her cervix. While some women love to have this area stimulated, it is highly sensitive. Massaging this area can create pain, discomfort, or more serious problems.
RESOURCES FOR FURTHER STUDY
It is important that couples study sexual education materials together when possible. Learning in this fashion encourages discussion between partners, which is vital to building a strong, physical connection. The feedback shared also builds intimacy.
Margot Anand’s books are amazing resources. Specifically, we recommend “The Art of Sexual Ecstasy,” “The Art of Sexual Magic,” and “Sexual Ecstasy: The Art of Orgasm.” Her books contain incredible information on human sexuality.
Mantak Chia is another brilliant resource. We previously reviewed “The Multi-Orgasmic Couple,” which Mantak Chia and his wife, Maneewan, wrote along with Doug and Rachel Abrams. Another great book by Chia is “Healing Love Through The Tao: Cultivating Female Sexual Energy.”
For full body massage and internal massage for women, we have yet to find anything as comprehensive and effective as the White Tiger Tantra series. Although the White Tiger Tantra DVD collection is more expensive than many massage videos, it covers everything you need to know, and has tons of information for couples to practice and incorporate into their lives.